“Will you marry me?”
One-night stands are a guy’s best option for quick, easy sex. There are plenty of women out there who don’t want anything more than a night of steamy fun, and those are the women you need to go after if you want to avoid the trap of commitment. How do you find a woman who wants what you do, though? It’s easy. Pay attention to clues she’s giving.If you see any of these warning signs, she wants more than a one-night stand.
How She Talks
“She cares about your interests”
This is your biggest clue that she might be looking for a little more than the quick no strings attached one-night stand you’re looking for. Even paying attention to how much she talks in addition to the actual things she says is a big indicator. Women who just want to hook up for the night and have a little fun aren’t going to want to get to know you. They don’t care about your interests, what your education level is, or how your last relationship ended. They want to know how soon you can meet them somewhere for a hookup and how little drama you’re going to cause after the fact. If the woman you’re talking to wants to talk about all of those serious things, she’s leaning towards commitment. That means she’s probably not the girl for your one-night stand, no matter how hot she is.
Accepting the Proposition
It doesn’t matter if you’re talking to her online or at a bar or club you just met at, how she reacts to a proposition to head back to your place or hers is going to let you know if she’s not in it just for a night of fun. If she doesn’t accept a proposition right off the bat but you can tell from pretty much every other signal she’s giving you that she’s interested, it might be bad news for you. If she’s interested but doesn’t react warmly to a hookup proposition, it could mean that she wants you for the long term. That’s not what you want, right?
Even worse, she might say things after you proposition her (not directly at you, of course – women can be passive-aggressive with these things) about how she’s been looking for a great guy to spend her time with. That’s a sign you need to get out before she wants you to commit, so listen to it. Hopefully that hookup proposition was just testing the waters and not an actual invitation, because this relationship is about to go somewhere you don’t want.
After the Sex
This is common sense, really. You’d be surprised how many men don’t listen to what she does right after you’ve slept together and use that to base their next course of action on. If she wants to cuddle and have a lot of pillow talk, you’re probably going to want to avoid encouraging her at all costs. Clearly she’s in it to win it, and she wants you for the long term. If she’s willing to get things over and done with, jump in the shower, and head home, you did well and you shouldn’t see any awkward commitment questions from her.